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So you screwed up... with me, for example.

In my case, you need to tell me in your own words (to prove you understand it) the fact that you will treat me like more of a person than you treated me as from now on. I won't be mad about anything else other than not being treated like a person. I don't get mad at people over petty crap.

Don't fucking apologize or be sorry. That just feels like pity to me and like a forced have-to on your part that you really don't want to do or feel like doing, something that humiliates you more than anything... even if that isn't the case, it feels like it to me.

Don't just say nothing but try to "make it up" to me in some sort of alternative, unassertive, sneaky, back-door way or with material crap or favors or irrelevant stuff. That just feels like sucking up and like you think I can be bought, even if that isn't your aim at all.

What I need and crave in these situations is straightforward, non-grudging, non-apologetic honesty. If you're incapable of that, you need to stay away until you are, and not to run your mouth about me behind my back either if it's going to be to a large group of people or if it will get back to anyone with the physical access or societal power to be able to get to me.

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