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So you "hate lazy bums."

 A lot of "lazy bums" aren't asking anyone-- least of all YOU-- to KEEP them alive... they're just asking you to LEAVE them alive. To not harass them or hurt or harm them. To not spread propaganda about them.


So why are you ging out of their way to shame them, and saying it's for their own good? Isn't it less painful for them to just learn naturally from their mistakes or from their overlookings or from their misfortunes, than to have it shoved down their throat in a torturously humiliating and painful manner by the likes of you?


Are you triggered by what you see as their choices? Do they remind you of someone from your past who treated you as a lesser person? Perhaps used you in some direct or indirect way in order to get what they wanted for free, even if it wasn't something they actually needed? Are you now, as a result, projecting that abuser's values, intent, actions, reasons for their actions, and trajectory onto the people you see as bums in the streets and in shelters and couch surfing and living with their families and friends and camping out and going to drop-in centers or food banks or donation centers?


Or are you JEALOUS of their situation? Do you resent that in certain ways, they have it better than you do? That some of the ones you see live a life where they can talk freely about things like emotions, experiences, traumas, issues, problems, hangups, all that? Rather than the life you feel and therefore are trapped in, where stuffing feelings and blindly obeying with a smile is the only thing that keeps people thinking you're a worthwhile human being?


Maybe you should leave that life. Not telling you what to do... only you know your situation. Just saying, though.

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