1. They're not sorry they made the dehumanizing assumptions they did about you, or sorry about how they acted on them or about the fact that they acted under those assumptions. They're sorry they got caught. Their "solution" is to hide it better next time rather than to never do it again-- or, perish forbid, see you as enough of a person to never have needed or deserved that, to not deserve it now, or to make an informed choice to not have anything more to do with them because of how they treated you.
2. This upside-down ass-backwards world sees love as immoral, impractical, bad, selfish, a waste of time, pretentious, cowardly, low-intellect, an excuse, dishonest, and as a lack of real actual love (they say slaving away for their system or dying for it is real actual love). They have forgotten that love is the POINT, and that if it doesn't serve love then it isn't actually practical at all.
3. Don't take anyone's words as gospel unless it literally says no more and no less and no different than the idea-- the truth-- that everyone is equally infinitely permanently lovingly sentient and is connected more than not and to all others in some way though not always on the closest level except their closest soulmates ... including the golden rule... and nothing different or less is gospel and never will be. A different attitude to that is dehumanization.
4. It isn't always that you are hard to swallow. Sometimes it's that the other person is a lightweight. If humanizing anyone brings distress to anyone else, then that means that that someone else is being tortured by brainwashing from society. A good thing to tell them (in some way or other, by some method or other) is, "I'm not hard to swallow... you're a lightweight. I am too. That's why I care about this in the first place. It's a good thing to care. We can work with that. Because no one is anything at all really other than a sentient being. Each and all of us are everything good and nothing bad. Bad gets caught up in us and around us, and us in and around it. But it's not part of us, and no part of us is any of it."
5. They ask you "Why are you saying/doing this?" Who else is going to say/do it? It's a shame you have to do their thinking for them just to avoid them hurting or harming or violating you or your loved ones or others, but if you don't it's YOU that often ends up suffering the consequences of their resulting actions or inactions. Tell them that. And tell them, "Who else is going to do it? Even God would get ME to try doing it first before trying to help it happen some other way. Even God needs ech and all of us as much as each and every one of us needs God."
6. Society has corrupted the phrase "too big for your britches," turning it into an insult against those whom they fear are too aware or attentive for their restrictive dehumanizing societal constraints, rather than the original meaning, which applies to THEM, not the people they are aiming it at. The original meaning is "too powerful to be kept in check by the people they try to control, too big to fail."
7. We don't need to be FEARING our government, or the people in ANY organization claiming to "help" us. Like someone said, THEY need to be fearing the people, if anything. If they can't handle being kept in check by or questioned by the people, then that's okay... it doesn't make them any less of a person... but for as long as they can't handle it, they don't need to be in a "helping" or "public servant" or "politician" job. If in that situation they refuse to quit, THAT is what makes them a coward.
8. You are allowed to tell someone, "I understand you have the psychological need ofr such and such, but I'm not the person who can or should be fulfilling that need for you."
9. Nobody lies about being harmed or traumatized. One can lie about or not talk about or not fully explain about WHO or WHAT harmed or traumatized them, but not about the fact that they were rendered to that point. Happy, mentally healthy people don't go around saying they are actively traumatized... because they're not, and they feel safe telling the truth. Otherwise they ARE traumatized by something.
10. You reach me by communicating directly, not through passive-aggressive/below-deck/sneaky means. Talking to me about the situation is how you reach me, not inviting me to hang out or giving me gifts or just suddenly starting talking to me again but not mentioning whatever the issue is, or anything else.
11. There is no attitude sicker than the attitude of "No one will like/love/associate with/notice/be interested in/find use in/respect/need you or even leave you alone without harassing you unless/until..." That phrase is utterly inaccurate, utterly cruel, and utterly unnecessary. An actually-accurate alternative to that is "Those who actually love you and all that will love you from the beginning. You were never seen as an acquired taste by anyone who truly loves you. And nothing could happen that would make anyone who actually loves you stop loving you, otherwise they never loved the actual you to begin with." The "No one will like you unless..." attitude is used to force people into lifestyles, relationships and roles/jobs/obligations they don't belong in. It's torture, and thankfully it's not sustainable, for the very reason that it's torture and isn't natural. Ultimately, you won't be able to shoehorn yourself. One either has basic respect for everyone, or is pretending to be someone they're not and forcing others to do the same. Doing this kills everything in our lives that makes ANYTHING worth it.
12. No one is small-minded. But we ACT small-minded by treating others as though they are small-minded.
13. Conditionalizing anyone's inherent rights is wrong in its own right-- and if inherent rights are conditional, then that means we're ALL fair game to have them snatched from us if this or when that or at all. Even if we never violated those "if"s, which are unethical in the first place. Just knowing that one can "lose their personhood" if one "violates" the "rules" is an infinite negative and inhumane impact on one's quality of life.
14. It is a sick society that dictates what kind of work is actual work or actual helping anyone and what kind isn't. Not working for the government or getting paid or working for a corporation or getting paid directly by the clients or business, or saving the world, or well-known, or loud, or parroting the party line, or feeding into the system or into Polite Society? Then they often think or want YOU to think that you are doing nothing at all and helping no one at all. But the truth is that a lot of people who "help" society-- by doing so, by following unethical rules imposed on them-- hurt people way more than they help. But oh-- because they appear so active and so popular and so vocal and so busy then that means they're saving the world and killing no one in the process, right? But we ARE all helping and making more than enough of a difference, in our own time. That DOESN'T necessarily even mean slowly or after a long while. The bad is not recognizing that... THAT is what the violation of rights and the entitled attitude is... not the single mom on welfare.
15. Disgusting crap never should have happened and will never be worth it to do to anyone in the future, but now that it did already to people, it was meant to be, because the universe compensates... including (completely accurately, fairly, proportionately) for time spent waiting for justice.
16. I'm honestly not someone who "needs to be right about everything" or who "thinks they know it all." I'll be wrong all day long about anything and everything other than the fact that everyone is a sentient being in need of and deserving of the rights sentient beings inherently have and need to be allowed to use. I don't mind being wrong about lawn care or who was president in 1760 or what method to use to bake a pie or something that is inconsequential to the point of it all. It's treating people as sentient that no one has the right to be wrong about-- not things like what method to use to do long division or what hairstyle to wear to the prom. But one thing that is NOT "in my humble opinion" that I refuse to say is in my humble opinion is the thing about everyone being sentient. "In my humble opinion" means that it's negotiable, or varying, or conditional, or subjective. And it definitely isn't.
17. No one is blind obedience to others or has that as any real actual trait of theirs. There are reasons inside them that define their decision to obey (even so-called "blindly"), if they do. The only thing meant to do nothing but receive and be passive is empty space. And if you think anyone is empty space, then you and I have an issue. Not a grudge, but a definite and real and legitimate and absolute and unavoidable ISSUE.
18. Often when one makes the executive decision to sacrifice a part of another person to "save that person"-- which is infinitely and disgustingly and dangerously wrong in its own right-- then what they think they are saving of that person is the OPPOSITE of who and what that person actually is, and you are sacrificing that person to save what you think or hope they are or what you want or need them to be.
19. For people who dehumanize others but first appear not to be, it's often just them going through the motions they were taught and told in order to make themselves fit in. They weren't showed enough lvoe themselves, and might have even been told that they need to do this or that to fit in rather than being shown it by others (which would have made them naturally want to do it, regardless of if it allowed them to "fit in.") This is often the way of "polite society." It's sad, creepy, and actually dangerous.
20. Just because we can't do everything everywhere all at once doesn't mean we can do nothing, or aren't doing enough, or need to break ourselves chasing the phantom that is perfection and doing it all everywhere all at once.
21. If you're my friend, you need to communicate to me that you see me as a separately and equally sentient being as you see everyone else. Because I don't KNOW what you think of me right away, or if you treated me dehumanizingly ever. And yes, I DESERVE to know (no matter what I might have done or supposedly did or whatever), and always did deserve and have the right to know, so that I can make a properly-informed choice whether to spend any more of my finite life around you... and if you think I don't then we're not friends. So if you can do that, do. If you can't, stay away from me until you can and want to.
22. Some people don't care if they destroy or damage us, but we don't operate the way they do. Because we know better. Therefore, we refuse to destroy or damage anyone by denying that they're "real people" or sentient beings or violating their inherent rights, not matter what they did, including dehumanizing us or others or treating us like our humanity or rights were ever or could ever be conditional or negotiable . Because one has their rights no matter what they do or don't do, and who they are or aren't, and treating theme otherwise will make them feel worse and therefore treat us (and everyone else) worse. Besides... they're victims too. If I was forced into a corner by another party, then I would be horrified if I was then punished by a third party for doing what I had to do to get out of that corner that the second paty forced me into.
23. Yes, it's all meant to be, but on another level it isn't. And that's the level we're dealing with here... not the God level. And THAT is ALSO meant to be, in order for anything else to be meant to be after.
24. It's a sick society that only treats people like people to the extent that THEY think they "act like people"-- AKA obedient, or like them, or like what THEY want us to be or do, or like the narrow definitin of what THEY have been taught and told that a person is.
25. Humanize your opponent and all others FIST, if you are at all able to in terms of time and physical safety. THEN go at it with your opponent. Then, no matter who wins the debate or whatever it is, humanize them again if you are up to it. If YOU are the one that won the debate and they lost, then you might even want to tell them, "Today you, tomorrow me."
26. When someone dies we can't forget that person in the process of comforting each other or ourselves over their death. Often the person still needs us to talk to them, and not just to tell them to go to the light or to welcom them to stay around to help US or keep us company.
27. It's a horrifying society that acts as though someone still alive (including people one claims to love) is dead or lesser because of something that happened to that person. Then they start to "mourn" the person's "lost opportunities". Basically, they might as well be saying "Now this person has tragically become less of a person so I'm now going to have to treat this person like they're less of a person because they're dead or lost their mind or their way or their good situation or their status or their supposed abilities." It's a horrifying attitude. Dehumanization is never the answer. It's always the problem, never the solution.
28. The only obedience I value is voluntary obedience to common sense and compassion that is understood by the person obeying it BEFORE they decide to obey it due to it just being common sense or compassion.
29. It's the adults that teach the kids to pick on each other, by telling or teaching them that they need to fear each other in order to avoid getting picked on. And by allowing kids so little power in and over their own lives that the only power they have is in the schoolyard.
30. I generally don't say things to seem intellectual or to cover my own ass or to get popular or to seem moral or good. I generally say things because they're true. If it comes out sounding cute, then that's great, but I don't say it to be cute.
31. By trying to "protect" someone from their own soul, you are raping their soul, not protecting it. You are proteting their obedience to you, which is the opposite of their own soul. No one ever needed "protection" from their soul or from who they are. Even if the person is "doing something dangerous," that has nothing to do with any "need" to tell them they'll die lonely and alone with no one loving or liking them if this or unless that. The only way to humanely get anyone to stop doing something bad to or against themself is to understand (as in, actually understand) and accept them as is... or to at least demonstrate to that person that you recognize them as a sentient, complex, inherently-loving person.
32. The universe has gotten to the point where we won't be disappointed by the process, or by the result. The process will overall be positive, and the results will be positive and extreme. And not fall short for us on any level in any way. It will no longer be torture for anyone-- not torturously too much or torturously lacking, or torturously too predictable or torturously too little good or positivity.
33. It would be infinitely, disgustingly evil if even once in this day and age due process wasn't required and used properly and completely to prove someone guilty of something, and if they aren't treated as innocent of that action until then. But most of the time, there is no due process even now. Or too little, or not appropriate due process, or the results get hidden or twisted or corrupted or lied about. This sick society is driving me insane just by watching it unfold, even though I'm not really taking part at this point. I don't know what's worse-- watching it and not taking part at all and living my life as a fly on the wall, or taking part.
34. Not all extreme happiness is mania... no less in a bipolar person or supposedly-bipolar person than in anyone else either. So don't you dare tell them they aren't allowed to dance for fear that they stub their toe or collapse from exhaustion or "get themselves worked up." They DESERVE the happiness (and to express it, both for their mental health alone and to prove to others they aren't just a miserable person, which also helps their mental health) after the depression and NEED it to help with future depression.
35. No one is wierd except as defined by those in power.
36. Forced=fake=toxic. Like forced/fake/toxic positivity, family, friendship, liberalism, confidence, Christianity, "intelligence," anything. Forcing people into compliance over some arbitrary crap or something that harms no one else-- forcing them with shame, guilt, fear, force, or punitive measures-- is inhumane... no ifs, ands or buts.
37. Stay far away from (but for safety reasons, keep tabs on) those who see you as too mich to be allowed, or as too little to be bothered with. No one is more or less than anyone else or any kind of inherent bad-- we just all and each need to find the ones who are the same kind of crazy as us, as many people have said. The ones whose craziness doesn't trigger ours.
38. I'll listen to people's problems al day long and do so happily and enthusiastically, but I won't take the blame or the misplaced punishment for them if I didn't cause or facilitate them. I'll take the fall for my part in things, but not yours. Not for his or hers or theirs or everyone's. If I choose to get punished or scorned or shamed or shunned on behalf of another person, that choice has to come from me volunteering... not from others pushing me to do it, or putting the blame on me or volunteering me as the person to take the fall.
39. Being "humble" is stupid and dehumanizing. It's literally being proud of who you're not while pretending to be that person you're not, and being ashamed of who you actually are.
40. Maybe "they" aren't stupid or even distracted. Maybe they're not lazy or selfish. Maybe they're not scared or too cowardly. Maybe they're actually doing it after all-- whatever "it" is to you-- just not in your prescribed order.
41. For so many people, "God made us all equal" or "We're all equal with inherent rights" is just words, just a buzzword to keep people sane or quiet or happy or obedient. Or they think the only way everyone is equal is in a way where the "better people" among them can USE them equally. But they don't believe in equality of the quality of how they treat others. So don't ever think you're crazy or delusional for suspecting someone is just using "God made us all equal" as a buzzword to keep people's trust and keep people serving or obeying them in some way or other.
42. It is neither your duty nor your purpose to receive or absorb hatred or blame.
43. Teach your kids survival skills, but don't punish or restrict their lives for getting victimized or potentially victimized. That literally falls on victim-blaming territory.
44. On a similar note: A crime is a reflection on the criminal/abuser/aggressor, NOT a reflection on the victim or on the victim's "willingness to be used or use the criminal" or the victim's "inability to look after themself" or the victim's "carelessness."
45. I did the limit of what I could and should to mitigate any psychological distress in my aggressors or others. But I will never sacrifice my own people or myself or my principles, to pander to their whatever. I never caused or facilitated their circus or their NEED for their circus. It's THEIR circus. I have and need and want NO part in it.
46. On copyright stuff: My MAIN aim here isn't to get credit, though it plays a part because my way of explaining things IS mine (like everyone else's is theirs). But I'd rather it get OUT THERE without me getting credit for it than get credit for it but it not be out there-- and it being out there (due to the nature of the writing) helps everyone gets credit for at least deserving to exist, so there's that.
47. An emotional longing, AKA an emotional need, is an emotional longing AKA need... no matter what supposed "type of" mind is longing for it. It's not EVIL anyone is longing for, it's love-- respect for our inherent loving nature and our inherent rights-- including to find and have and keep love.
48. Unless you're my soulmate or my minor child or (if I was a therapist) my client-- in which case I'd be enthusiastic about helping and validating you-- then I'm under NO obligation to walk on eggshells to spare your feelings at the expense of my own feelings and freedom to move.
49. Doing what you had to do is NOT a bad choice you made or a lack of ability or intelligence on your part... the choice you made is all you had to work with. Or all you were allowed to know you had to work with.
50. You have lost the plot the moment you become about "becoming someone important" rather than working with everyone to spread the message that everyone is equally infinitely permanently important and literally essential and absolutely downtown relevant... and as they are, in their own order.
51. It's sick how some people who say they "help" those with mental disabilities-- however "well-intended"-- end up advocating for stigmatizing treatment of them and for restriction or even termination of their lives rather than for their freedom. These are people who are very proud of and supposedly "grateful for" being "normal" and "smarter than others." If something were to happen to these pretentious or disgustingly misguided people that caused them brain damage, they'd blow their own brains OUT. This doesn't make me happy or make me laugh-- it makes me sad, and beyond angry, for everyone who has ever been made to feel like they are a worthless excuse for a person or like they would become less of a person once they became allegedly less smart or normal from sudden mental illness, brain damage, drugs, psychological trauma, or whatever. Or like anyone could ever be less of a person for any reason.
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